As a fan of Jocko Willink, his podcast (Jocko Podcast), and his first book (Extreme Ownership written with Leif Babbin) I refer to his principals to help me with perspective. Jocko constantly talks about playing the long game when dealing with other people at work, within a family, or almost any circumstance. Jocko often speaks of the importance of being able to detach and control your ego in situations so that you can arrive at good decisions and solutions. He says that you know that your ego is taking control when you get emotional or are focusing on your personal interests instead of the team. The driver for taking the longer view (as I understand it) is being able to claim ownership for what is happening in your life and surroundings rather than making excuses or seeking to place blame elsewhere. To own it you have to think about all of the ways that you could make things better for yourself and those around you. I highly recommend the Jocko Podcast and the book Extreme Ownership. The book is about leadership, but the first person you have to lead is yourself.